Wednesday, November 27, 2013

Hellos & Goodbyes

 "Father, help!  I don't like this feeling.  
I don't like watching my children 
say goodbye to their friends.  
You say you are close to the brokenhearted.  Show us!"
-prayer over goodbyes in Kentucky

Through a wedding, over chocolate cake, in small gatherings and large, and with many, many, many, many tears, we spent the last three days saying goodbye to the people and places we love in Kentucky.
We leave here knowing in our nine years we have lived deeply, laughed often, been blessed immeasurably, and have a God who will someday wipe every tear away.
Home church send-off


Bible study goodbye painting party
We planned to stay one night with the Williams, and we ended up staying all three.  We just. couldn't. pull. the kids. away.  Thanks for your perpetual hospitality, Andy!


 "The pain now is part of the happiness then.  That's the deal."  C.S. Lewis

Friday, November 22, 2013

And So It Begins.....




Four weeks ago we arrived at Mission Training International with no intention of bonding with these new people, only to say goodbye a month later.  The nature of the training, however, is that by the third week the thought of being separated from our classmates made me (Sara) feel like I was suffocating.  Through our simulations and discussions in deep places, these new friends know me better than I knew myself when we arrived.

And so it begins.

Today we leave the comfort and safety of our MTI "home" and start the long, hard, beautiful process of saying goodbye to friends and family.  One lesson we learned here is that painful goodbyes are a good thing.  It means you've done what the Lord asked of you.  You have loved well.

We were also given a word for the new phase we are about to step into as we leave MTI and quickly head overseas to begin language training without the comfy bed to sleep on at the end of a draining day, minus the meals cooked for us, minus food we even recognize, minus climate control, plus three children in culture shock, plus being watched constantly, plus driving on streets with donkey carts and mottos and without order.  Our word for this new stage is "CHAOS."  Consider yourself warned:  The Matheny family is headed for chaos.  And we're doing it on purpose.

Let me leave you with this cross-cultural adaptation of 1 Corinthians 13 found in our MTI notebook:
"If I give all I possess to the poor, and if I spend my energy without reserve, but have not love, 
I gain nothing.
Love endures long hours of language study, is kind to those who mock his accent; does not envy those who stayed home; love does not exalt his home culture, is not proud of his national reputation.....
Love never fails; but where there is cultural anthropology, it will fail; where there is contextualization, it will cease; where there is linguistics, it will vanish.
For we know only part of the culture and we minister to only part.
But when Christ is reproduced in this culture, then our inadequacies will be insignificant.  When I was in America, I spoke as an American, I understood as an American, I thought as an American; but when I left America, I became a learner of a new culture!.....
And now these three remain: cultural adaptation, language learning and love.
But the greatest of these is love."


Friends for life headed to India, Paraguay, South Sudan and Burkina Faso!

Monday, November 18, 2013

Week 3: "Productively Disturbed"

Remember how I said the first two weeks of Missions Training were drilling our brains and pampering our bodies?  Well, week three was all about our hearts.  Stretching, pounding, and digging into our hearts.  I filled a binder with notes and a bathtub with tears.  There is an awesome depth to this program designed to let us look into the face of evil and not be shaken, for He who is in us is greater than He who is in the world.  Personally, I was reminded how to listen to His voice and was given space to see for myself the Word is alive.

Additionally, the weather has been gorgeous, and we've enjoyed time outside in Colorado in November!  Woohooo.  Throw in a few fun lessons with the whole community (kids included) and a field trip to Native American Cliff Dwellings for the kids, and you've got week three.






May our hearts be pliable to be transformed by this experience and to say, "You are peace, You are peace when my fear is crippling."

Saturday, November 9, 2013

Our Stateside Language Place

“I know your brains are full, but what about your hearts?” our instructor asked as he sent us out of class to have fifteen minutes with our Savior right in the middle of a language training day.  More than the curriculum, what I will take away from the two weeks of phonetics training is having A PLACE. A place to worship, a place to rest, a place to prepare for Africa, a place to remember our call is not to missions, but to Christ. 


As soon as we arrived, we started shedding layers of exhaustion.  Because the kids travel so well, I hadn’t realized how deeply the rootlessness was affecting them.  Titus’ unbridled enthusiasm at having HIS OWN bed for the WHOLE four weeks caught me by surprise.  He’s right, though.  It’s been a long time since he had a real bed that he didn’t have to share with his brother.  Emily’s reaction of, “It’s a dream come true!” was to having a closet and drawers in which to put her clothes.  Clearly, they became “missionary kids” long before leaving the country.

The children’s program here is phenomenal.  For six hours a day, all three are in their classes learning language skills and also processing growing up in a foreign country.  The teachers are giving the kids words to express their paradoxical childhoods and, best of all, it’s normal here.  The first day Emily said one kid in her class described his family as “crazy” because they’d sold their house and all of their stuff and were driving around the country preparing to move to Africa.  “That’s not crazy,” she said, “That’s just like us.”


Our family phrase of the week: “They are drilling our brains, but pampering our bodies.”  This program reminds me of our college days at Harding because they took away all my real world responsibilities like cooking, cleaning, traveling, and (most of the) homeschooling.  In return, they gave me strenuous classes and homework assignments.  I love it!  Plus, just like in college, the people we go to class with are the ones we play with on the weekends, the people we eat with in the dining room are the ones we worship with day in and day out….it’s Christian community on steroids. 

As a side note, we have learned a lot about language acquisition in the last two weeks. With input from others, Philip and I have a battle plan drafted for tackling West African French upon arrival to the country.  These language learning weeks have flown by, but the overarching lesson is this: Learning French in country is not going to resemble the tortuous years I spent attempting to learn Spanish in school.   God is faithfully bringing us into something completely new. 

“Hungry I come to You for I know you satisfy.”
Kathryn Scott

Wednesday, November 6, 2013

Bilabial and velar fricatives


No, I am not calling anyone bad names.  These are a couple of the phonetic skills we get to work on as we are deep in language acquisition training this week: 





The more I learn about different languages, the more amazed I am with our Father who created all of them, and the more frustrated I am with the folks who set out to build that tower to the heavens all those years ago.  Just as great pride brought about God’s actions in Genesis 11 resulting in many new tongues; the process of learning another language requires, or helps us acquire, great humility.  I appreciate the emphasis our MTI instructors put on language learning as a huge part of sharing the Gospel.  Language learning is not a “necessary evil” to do the next part of our work, but it is another phase in this mission to build relationships, share God’s love, and model Christ’s humility.  Once in Africa, we plan to hire a language tutor to work with our family, and then practice our growing French skills with people in our community.  We pray that our humble efforts to learn not only French, but the local mannerisms, dialect, and expressions, will open our new friends’ hearts to the Father’s overflowing love through us.  Will you join us in praying for the people, and specifically the tutor, God wants us connected with in the initial language learning of the mission?  I get excited thinking about what God might do with these relationships in the Kingdom!